High-Conflict Divorces: What to Consider
Divorce is a difficult and emotional process for all parties involved, but it can be especially challenging when children are caught in the middle. In high-conflict divorces, child custody battles can become intense and complicated, resulting in long legal battles that have a significant impact on everyone’s lives.
In this post I explore important considerations for parents and their children during this difficult time.
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Child Custody Laws in California
California, like most states, uses the “best interests of the child” standard when determining custody arrangements. This means that the court will consider various factors to determine what arrangement would be most beneficial for the child involved.
In California, there are two types of custody: legal and physical. Legal custody refers to the ability to make important decisions on behalf of the child, such as those related to healthcare, education, and religion. Physical custody refers to where the child will live and spend their time.
High-Conflict Divorce and Its Impact On Children
In high-conflict divorces, the level of animosity and bitterness between the parents can make it difficult to reach an amicable agreement regarding child custody. This type of divorce is particularly damaging for children, as they are often exposed to constant fighting and may feel caught in the middle.
Children in high-conflict divorces may experience a range of negative emotions such as anger, guilt, and confusion. They may also struggle with loyalty conflicts, feeling torn between their parents’ opposing views and unable to fully express their own feelings.
Important Considerations for Parents
During a high-conflict divorce, it is essential for parents to prioritize the well-being of their children above all else. This means setting aside personal differences and working together to create a custody arrangement that is in the best interests of their children.
Some important considerations for parents during this process include:
Maintaining open and respectful communication with each other
Keeping children out of adult conflicts and not using them as messengers between parents
Being flexible and willing to compromise for the sake of their children’s well-being
In the challenging landscape of high-conflict divorces, prioritizing the well-being of children is paramount. As a specialized Divorce Coach, I offer guidance and strategies to navigate this journey with resilience.
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